I have written about a few ups and downs I have had with my Mum, she is an amazing woman but she can be a difficult Mother. She has been complaining that she does not see the Pickle but can cancel coming to her Birthday if she is invited to play bridge.
I can be smart and find an invitation she could not refuse. The carrot I dangled to Reading was not her Granddaughter but 'HomeSense' the new T.K.Maxx home store - and it worked. She came!
We had a great browse of HomeSense and she found a cute present for the Pickle - then she even was complimentary about my home, the lunch I prepared and she seemed to enjoy walking the dog. The spell was not lifted. shee ignored the lure of the computer and her emails and even came on the school run with me.
The Pickle was so excited to see Granny, which melted the Mumster's heart. The charm continued - after a quick tea I made myself busy and secretly watched. I am so pleased that I did - the sight will lift me over many dark days. They just sat side by side, Sarita showing her Granny her pictures from her book bag. The were totally absorbed in each other's company, just enjoying the moment.
As afternoon slipped into the evening, and the spell continued. The details are immaterial, the bridges are being built. For the first time Granny really connected with my new family. Patience and optimism have paid off!
If I can capture some of that magic dust that sprinkled that day, I would like to pass it on to you. Families can be great, they can be difficult but sometimes with luck, patience and some of this magic dust, I hope that you too can have your own happy ever afters, even if you have had a rocky start.
Granny is back on side, if I feel strong enough, I may write about one more relationship that seems immune to my best efforts. But, if we have got Granny to relax into toddler time, anything is feasible!